Must we emasculate men to make women equal?
Isn’t there another way to present the issues of feminism without belittling men?
I know, I know. As a man I have no right to speak against any effort of any woman to say what she thinks about this issue. I’m to sit back and take any counter-bullying that is dished out to me. Whether it’s watching every lead male on a sit-com deteriorate into “stupid man” in the eyes of all the female characters or being expected to dress up in drag to atone for my presumed sins simply because I have XY chromosomes.
And what about boys who see this video and are exposed to other tauntings against their sex, many of them based in prejudice and malice. The war against boys is destroying them already.
The research commonly cited to support claims of male privilege and male sinfulness is riddled with errors. Almost none of it has been published in peer-reviewed professional journals. Some of the data turn out to be mysteriously missing. A review of the facts shows boys, not girls, on the weak side of an education gender gap. The typical boy is a year and a half behind the typical girl in reading and writing; he is less committed to school and less likely to go to college. In 1997 college full-time enrollments were 45 percent male and 55 percent female. The Department of Education predicts that the proportion of boys in college classes will continue to shrink.
Data from the U.S. Department of Education and from several recent university studies show that far from being shy and demoralized, today’s girls outshine boys. They get better grades. They have higher educational aspirations. They follow more-rigorous academic programs and participate in advanced-placement classes at higher rates. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, slightly more girls than boys enroll in high-level math and science courses. Girls, allegedly timorous and lacking in confidence, now outnumber boys in student government, in honor societies, on school newspapers, and in debating clubs. Only in sports are boys ahead, and women’s groups are targeting the sports gap with a vengeance. Girls read more books. They outperform boys on tests for artistic and musical ability. More girls than boys study abroad. More join the Peace Corps. At the same time, more boys than girls are suspended from school. More are held back and more drop out. Boys are three times as likely to receive a diagnosis of attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder. More boys than girls are involved in crime, alcohol, and drugs. Girls attempt suicide more often than boys, but it is boys who more often succeed. In 1997, a typical year, 4,483 young people aged five to twenty-four committed suicide: 701 females and 3,782 males.
Look, men can be pigs. I’m not denying that. And I know that women worldwide (not just in the U.S.) are at a disadvantage and have always been so since time began. I’m FOR closing the equality gap, not making it wider. I’m FOR eliminating all forms of rape and abuse, not making them worse.
What I’m not keen on is using bullying, intimidation, and humiliation tactics as a means to achieve any end, whether it’s equality or anything else, no matter which side is using it or how the culture thinks “the bad guys” deserve it. How does that make things right? Sure, it makes some people feel better about themselves, but isn’t that the motivation of a bully to begin with? How do two wrongs make a right?
Why not have a dialogue instead of a fight? Why not create an atmosphere of the same kind of respect expected in return and start there? Why create yet another excuse and pretext for the worst of men to perpetuate even more mysoginy when they see/hear this kind of rhetoric?
Is accusation, denigration, and humiliation really the answer here? Haven’t we moved past “an eye for an eye”? Or do we really want to as much as we say we do?