For a couple of years now, I couldn’t say adequately in words how aggravated I was to hear people ask me if my kids are being “socialized” now that they’re home schooled.
First of all, it’s a “none of your [expletive] business” kind of question.
Second of all, this:
Kids had bullied Ashlynn for years, calling her a “slut,” “fat,” and “ugly,” so that day’s incident seemed relatively minor to Stacy: The girls had poked fun at Ashlynn’s initials, “A.C.,” saying it sounded like “air conditioner.”
Three different teachers at the school had told Ashlynn to “stop tattling” after she reached out for help, the girl told her mother. It was the Thursday before Veterans Day, and Stacy told Ashlynn she should go straight to the principal the following Monday if the bullying continued.
“But she didn’t want to wait until Monday,” Stacy told The Daily.
Ashlynn’s older sister found her hanging by her neck from a scarf in a bedroom closet on Friday night. She was pronounced dead before 9 p.m. at a local hospital, another inconceivably young victim of elementary school bullying.
This is precisely why one of my kids is home schooled, and partially why the others followed. We were fortunate enough to have caught it early and nipped it in the bud. Other kids aren’t so fortunate.
Why? People I talk to about home school, and who insist on public school as the “best” option for every child, offer all kinds of excuses as to why they “can’t” or “couldn’t” or “won’t” remove their kids from public education. The excuses range from their almost cult-like dedication to their perception of the quality of the public school system vs. home schooling, to having both parents work to being a single parent and not being able to teach them at home.
Aren’t I downright mean for suggesting that dual income earners and single moms and dads figure out something–anything–else other than send their kids to a public school?
I don’t see it as being mean. I see it as being loyal to one’s children first and foremost, even in the face of reducing or eliminating one’s income to keep a child alive.
My heart really goes out to Mrs. Conner. I can’t imagine what she’s going through right now, so I hesitate to ask any question of where her mind and heart are now. I don’t claim to know either way, so I’m merely projecting my own feelings here. I just have to ask, because it’s important to be clear as to what is really going on in public schools. Let us see this tragedy in its true perspective.
How much would Stacy Conner sacrifice to have her daughter back?
How much is she regretting right now trying, as most of us do out of habit, by the way, to live by that old trope “better get used to it” (we call that one BGUTI for short at my house when the subject of injustice in public school comes up). I challenge anyone to attempt to tell any abuse victim “better get used to it”. Doesn’t work so well, right? Then why do we say that to our kids!? NOBODY should have to “get used” to abuse.
How much is she wondering if she had gone to the school officials earlier and confronted them, like a growling momma bear, whether things might have turned out differently?
But most of all, how much would she give up to have her daughter back?
I’d bet she’d give up everything to have her back. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G.
- Bullying blamed in 10-year-old girl’s suicide (msnbc.msn.com)
- Ashlynn Connor (kcareyinfante.com)
- Phoebe Prince Again? Bullying Linked to Suicide of 10… (psychcentral.com)
- Bullying (affluentstudent.wordpress.com)
- Time to Stand UP and STOP the MADNESS…. (camsgranny.wordpress.com)
- Kadja’s RANT ALERT! Bullying Must Be Stopped and Educators Who Are Deliberately Ignoring it Must Go! Parents of Victims: OCCUPY THE SCHOOLS! SERIOUSLY!!! (kadja1.com)
- Home school or public: Which education method is the best? ()
- Social media aids bullying in adolescent suicides (jou2100.wordpress.com)
- Bullies (education.com)
- Bullying Prevention: At School and Online (education.com)
- Bullied 10-year-old girl commits suicide – Source: WRAL (curmilus.wordpress.com)